When you take two of todays most admired actresses and cast them in brief but crucial roles as surprise two of the most admired actresses of their respective generations, what do you get? Two of Feud‘s most inspired more-than-cameos from Catherine Zeta-Jones and Sarah Paulson, natch.
Zeta-Jones tells Mashable she had enormous respect for British actress Olivia de Havilland, one of the most glamorous and talented actresses of the 30s and 40s, who is still remembered today for her star-making roles as Maid Marian, in 1938s The Adventures of Robin Hood, and Melanie Wilkes, well-mannered rival to Scarlett OHara in Gone With the Wind not to mention her Oscar-winning turns in 1946s To Each His Own and 1949s The Heiress.
Zeta-Jones notes that, despite the competitive fractions that were all too common and encouraged between many of the leading ladies of the era, de Havilland and Bette Davis bonded quickly and became extremely close.
It was Bette who became a friend to Olivia, first, says the actress. Olivia had a touch of royalty. She was an ex-pat; she had an exotic air she was born in Tokyo, but she lived here. She started doing Shakespeare in upstate California; she was certainly not found having a popsicle at the diner. Her name alone de Havilland!
Bette saw that she was more than a pretty face very early on and Olivia never forgot that and they became friends, adds Zeta-Jones. I think Bette wasnt threatened by Olivia and Olivia wasnt threatened by Bette. It was a great dynamic they had and they respected each other for that.
Shes a woman who didnt take a lot of BS at the time and who left [Hollywood] of her own accord, Zeta-Jones says of de Havilland, noting that when the actress had fulfilled her seven-year contract to Warner Bros and the studio tried to forcibly extend her commitment, she filed suit and won an important legal victory for all actors that is still enforced today.
Despite a two-year virtual blacklisting in Hollywood, when she returned to the screen de Havilland quickly reclaimed her box office clout and critical accolades, before retreating to a quieter, semi-retired life in France, taking occasional roles as when she stepped into help Davis save 1964s HushHush, Sweet Charlotte after Joan Crawfords acrimonious departure.
She was very happy to go out to France, to Europe, says Zeta-Jones. She wanted real stuff in her life. She went up against the studio heads. You dont do that now, but to do that then, when they were literally pawns in the chess game of Hollywood, the women she was tough! If a woman can live into her hundredth year, she must have been a lot tougher than [people thought].
De Havilland celebrated her 100th birthday in 2016 and remains a living link to Hollywoods Golden Age much like Zeta-Jones father-in-law, Kirk Douglas, whom the actress says has schooled her on the close-knit friendships of many Golden Age stars.
There were a lot of really true friendships then, says Zeta-Jones. My father-in-law had good relationships with a lot of actors: Tony Quinn, Tony Curtis, Frank Sinatra really good friendships. Women of that time were always, in the press, made to look like they were feuding; bitching. I found that a lot of strong friendships were made in those studio system years. It was like all the women were vying for the better roles; vying for the popularity contest, but they knew that they had to have each others backs.
Emerging a generation after de Havilland to become one of the most revered actresses of her own generation, Geraldine Page respected the value of professional camaraderie among actresses by the time she encountered the more manipulative Joan Crawford in 1963 and agreed to, in necessary absentia, let Crawford accept her Academy Award for Best Actress for Sweet Bird of Youth if she won a role she originated on Broadway and which provided the second of eight career nominations.
You dont become an actress and not know about the genius that is Geraldine Page, says Paulson, who played Page in Episode 5, set at the Academy Awards.
Paulson dove into her research on Page: the Lee Strasberg-trained actress was a stage sensation during her formative years in the 1950s, starring in productions of playwright N. Richard Nashs The Rainmaker and Tennessee Williams Summer and Smoke and Sweet Bird of Youth, which also led to her first Tony nomination.
While she remained a huge stage attraction throughout her career, Page also scored many Hollywood roles including Hondo, Toys In the Attic, Pete N Tillie, Interiors and A Trip to Bountiful, for which she finally claimed an Oscar, two years before her death in 1987.
I know a lot of people from New York in the theater community who told me a lot of things about her that were utterly useless to me in what was required of me in this part, in terms of what I was having to do, admits Paulson. I was serving a bigger picture story of Joans and her need, so it wasnt about Geraldine. So some of the information I had gathered, I had to kind of chuck out, because it wasnt really about that.
Paulson adds that shes itching to reprise the role, should opportunity knock: Boy, would I long to play her in a really larger fashion! Shes a fascinating woman, and an extraordinary actress, and a very proper human being I want a whole Feud about Geraldine Page and whomever shes feuding with, but I dont know who shes feuding with!
Unlike Page, de Havilland did have a public personal and professional feud of her own, as hinted at during the course of the series: a longstanding and often bitter rivalry with her only sibling, actress Joan Fontaine, who was also a Best Actress Oscar winner a contentious relationship that Zeta-Jones suggests was likely exacerbated by Hollywood.
Even today, people will say what a tough business were in, she says. But back then it was really tough, and really tough for women. And it was a popularity contest, where if you were in, you were in with the studio behind you. And they showed you in a wonderful light. And if you were out, you could be ostracized and kicked out of town, like the Blacklist. It was a real tough time.
Zeta-Jones admits that she was oblivious to the politics of the studio system when she started out. Myself, growing up I didnt know. It always sounded wonderful. I knew I wanted to be part of it. I came to Hollywood at my time; a different generation, and its not as glamorous. Its not all autographs and sunglasses, as they say. Its sad: women in Hollywood are still having a tougher go at it than men. Its changed somewhat, but its still baby steps in the whole bigger spectrum of it all.
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Hollywood has proved that it’s willing to turn literally anything into a movie, from children’s toys, to Reddit posts, to E.L. James novels. So, if you ever notice a film-worthy property that has remained conspicuously un-adapted, you can bet your ass that it’s not for lack of trying. In fact, some of the stories behind these non-adaptations would make pretty good movies of their own (mostly comedies, with some hints of psychological horror).
Gore Verbinski’s R-Rated BioShock Movie Is Dead Due To Watchmen
Video game adaptations tend to be utter garbage for one simple reason: It’s hard to turn a plot like “portly Italian steps on hundreds of turtles” into a coherent screenplay. If there’s one game that could break the curse, though, it’s BioShock. Why? Because it already has a more cogent story than most movies.
2K Games Not to mention, way more diving suit-wearing mutants with giant drills on one hand.
The game’s critically acclaimed storyline (centered on a utopic underwater city created by a combination of Walt Disney and Ayn Rand) is ripe for the taking — and there’s one director willing to do it. Gore Verbinski of Pirates Of The Caribbean fame is a big fan of BioShock‘s “cinematic potential” and “strong narrative,” and we’ve already talked about why he would actually be perfect for this adaptation (assuming he doesn’t succumb to the Burton Syndrome and casts Johnny Depp for every part).
Verbinski was all set to shoot a BioShock movie in 2009, and fittingly for someone named “Gore,” he wasn’t planning to shy away from the game’s violence and general fucked-up-ness. In his own words, he “just really, really wanted to make it a movie where, four days later, you’re still shivering and going, ‘Jesus Christ!'” The movie’s concept art confirms that, at the very least, this thing would have been visually amazing:
Verbinski wanted between $160 and $200 million to properly recreate the underwater city of Rapture, but after Zack Snyder’s dour superhero slo-mo-fest underperformed, Universal got nervous about financing such an expensive R-rated film. Verbinski wouldn’t budge on the rating or the budget, so that was it. The studio tried to keep going with another director, but the same problems came up again. Eventually, BioShock‘s creators decided they didn’t need a stinking movie anyways.
We’d love to end this entry telling you that the recent string of R-rated genre hits proved those cowardly producers wrong, but it’s not that simple: Deadpool cost only $58 million, Logan reportedly $97 million, and Mad Max: Fury Roaddidn’t exactly make it rain (by Hollywood standards). Shooting an underwater city probably won’t be affordable until we’re actually living in one, so cross your fingers for more climate change, gaming fans!
We’ll Never See Guillermo Del Toro’s At The Mountains Of Madness Because Of Freaking Prometheus
Like his creation Cthulhu, horror author H.P. Lovecraft has managed to indirectly wedge his face-tentacles into everything you love. He’s inspired such disparate works as Dungeons And Dragons, Evil Dead, and even Conan The Barbarian — and yet, very few of his works have been directly adapted into movies. For instance, there’s never been a film adaptation of his classic novella At The Mountains Of Madness, the lovely story of a bunch of scientists who stumble upon forgotten horrors during an Antarctic expedition, and end up getting slaughtered or losing their minds.
Guillermo Del Toro, no stranger to giant monsters from other dimensions, has been trying to adapt Mountains for decades, but the project has been cursed by the unthinkable evils that rule the universe: Hollywood executives. Del Toro had a script ready as early as 1998, and at various points the project managed to attract serious interest from Warner Bros., Universal, and Steven Spielberg’s DreamWorks Pictures. In 2010, Del Toro even convinced James Cameron to join as producer and had Tom Cruise in advanced talks to star (yes, we might have finally found out what Cruise looks like as an insane person).
The studios always ended up wussing out over the budget and dark tone, but Del Toro kept plugging away, convinced that this was something audiences had never seen before. That is, until he heard about a little movie called Prometheus. You know, the one about a bunch of scientists who stumble upon forgotten horrors during a galactic expedition, and end up getting slaughtered or crushed by slow-moving space donuts.
The similarities don’t end there: Both Prometheus and Mountains involve the scientists discovering an ancient alien race responsible for creating humanity, as well some ugly-ass monsters hell-bent on destroying said humanity. Del Toro didn’t want to cover the same ground as that film, so he announced that his project was on hold or dead. In 2013, he said he would give it one more try … and that’s the last anyone’s heard of it. Oh, well, at least there’s always the new Hellbo– Whoops.
Hamilton Won’t Be A Movie For Decades Because The Creator Just Said So
Chances are that you’ve never seen Hamilton yourself (tickets go from $175 to $2000 and are still constantly sold out), but you sure as hell have heard about it. It’s a freaking cultural phenomenon. The Founding Father-themed hip-hop musical won 11 of its record-breaking 16 Tony Awards nominations, largely for its ability to achieve the impossible: making people pay “could have bought fairly high-quality cocaine” money to see something pertaining to Alexander “National Debt Ain’t Nothing But A Thing” Hamilton.
Since Hamilton creator Lin-Manuel Miranda is all about making American history more accessible to the masses, a movie adaptation would make perfect sense, right? So thinks everyone, except Lin-Manuel Miranda. In a recent Rolling Stone interview, Miranda stated that if a film adaptation happens, it probably wouldn’t be for at least 20 years. Partially, he wants to make sure people come see it in theaters now (even though 99 percent of us will never have the chance) … but he also claims that the only good play-to-film adaptations are “all 20 years after the fact,” giving examples like Cabaret or Chicago.
At most, those suffering from Hamilust will have to settle for watching a filmed performance of the play, but there are two problems with that: 1) Miranda says he hasn’t decided what to do with the only recording of the original cast, joking (we think?) that he’d throw it in a vault, and 2) no one in the history of humanity has enjoyed a fixed-camera movie of a play. You might as well sneak into one of the inevitable rip-off productions that high school drama clubs will be putting on for years to come.
Steve Carell’s Real-Life Comedy About North Korea, Pyongyang, Was Shelved Because Of The Interview
North Korea has been responsible for a lot of terrible things over the years, but there was one time when they actually tried to save us from a lurking danger we ourselves didn’t fully understand: Seth Rogen’s The Interview. In what we naively thought would be the most bonkers international incident of this decade, Kim Jong-un’s regime took offense at something in the movie (presumably the part about Rogen and James Franco assassinating him, but maybe they’re just tired of stoner jokes) and allegedly hacked Sony Pictures in retaliation.
As a result, most screenings of the movie were cancelled and the film was banished to the wasteland of home video.
However, this Chinese food-fart of a movie wasn’t the most tragic casualty of the Sony hack clusterfuck: that would be Steve Carell’s Pyongyang, which was a story that actually deserved to be told.
Based on a 2004 autobiographical comic book, Pyongyang details author Guy Delisle’s experiences in the North Korean capital, where he worked as the liaison between a French animation company and a local studio. That studio’s signature creation, by the way, is an adorable propaganda series starring a squirrel and a hedgehog, imaginatively titled Squirrel And Hedgehog.
Because of his particular role, Delisle was given unprecedented access to parts of the country usually hidden from outsiders. His book is a retelling of all the bizarre things he saw and experienced in that crazy-ass regime — a concept that apparently made Gore Verbinski’s ears perk up when he heard about it. In 2013, New Regency announced Verbinski would direct a “dark comedy” based on the Delisle’s experiences, and eventually added Steve Carell as the lead. It would have been an intriguing combination of awkward situations …
The Catcher In The Rye Will Never Get A Movie Because Of A Terrible Version Of Another J.D. Salinger Story
J.D. Salinger’s Catcher In The Rye has long been considered by hipsters (and assassins) to be the greatest book against phonies ever written. Holden Caulfield’s story of self-discovery mirrors that of many a pissed-off, surly, uniquely rebellious teenager — so, all of them, basically. That probably explains why entire generations of actors, from Marlon Brando to Leonardo DiCaprio, have tried to get the movie done with themselves in the lead.
The problem is that, like his boy Caulfield, Salinger was on a bit of a crusade against the phonies of the world — and to him, no one was phonier than Hollywood (not sure how he got that impression).
Salinger didn’t always feel that way. Early in his career, he sold the rights to his short story Uncle Wiggily In Connecticut, a commentary on materialism in the post-WWII era. According to his assistant, Salinger “thought they would make a good movie,” which wasn’t an unreasonable assumption considering that the script would be written by the screenwriters of Casablanca, Julius and Philip Epstein.
So what did the Epsteins do? They changed the name to My Foolish Heart, ditched all the social commentary, and turned the story into a sappy romantic tale.
Anyway, if you excitedly thought that Salinger’s death might finally bring about a Catcher adaptation, then you’re 1) a shitty person, and 2) wrong. The people who manage his trust were fully aware of his aversion to licensing out any of his works, and will continue his crusade for generations to come. On the upside, think of all the murders from illiterate would-be killers we’re avoiding this way.
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Behind every awful movie is the idea for a good one. Old man Indiana Jones discovers aliens: Good in theory, bad in practice. Batman fights Superman: So simple, but so bad. Are there good versions of these movies hidden within the stinking turds that saw the light of day? Jack O’Brien hosts Soren Bowie, Daniel O’Brien, and Katie Willert of After Hours on our next live podcast to find an answer, as they discuss their ideal versions of flops, reboots, and remakes. Tickets are $7 and can be purchased here!
Jesse Newton woke up in the middle of the night after his four-year-old son had crawled into bed smelling like dog shit. The smell was so horrifying, the man jumped out of the bed, only to discover that their Roomba robotic vacuum cleaner had ran over their dog’s poop, and now covered the entire house with the doggie’s turd – think rugs, floor, furniture and kid’s toys. All of this horror happened while the whole family were soundly asleep…
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Newton, who described the event as a ‘pooptastrophe’ was so shocked that it took him a year to start speaking about the incident. “It’s taken me until now to wrap my head around it and find the words to describe the horror.”
“Do not, under any circumstances, let your Roomba run over dog poop… Because if that happens, it will spread the dog poop over every conceivable surface within its reach, resulting in a home that closely resembles a Jackson Pollock poop painting.”
However, Newton was quick to defend his dog Evie: “This is the only time she’s done this, so it’s probably just because we forgot to let her out before we went to bed that night.” Fair enough.
Jesse Newton woke up at night after his four-year-old son had crawled into bed smelling like dog shit
SXSW is 10 days of fun. Many of colleagues (I see you Brett Williams) teased me (on Slack) for having a “great time with all the work down there.”
But, hey, it’s actually work. Attending panel after panel, speaking on your own panels, BBQ after BBQ, happy hour after happy hour isn’t easy no matter how fun it looks from everyone’s Snapchat (or Instagram, Messenger, WhatsApp, Facebook) Stories.
When I came back, and even during the whole ordeal, I found my favorite part to be the 45 minutes that I spent away from all the hullabaloo. It was the cycling class I participated with Foursquare and CYC on Monday, the midway point in my SXSW journey.
The invitation wasn’t extended lightly. Mine arrived in my inbox after I expressed my sadness (on Twitter) over Spotify not throwing their own cycling event, as they did in the year prior with SoulCycle. In 2016, I legit “Turned Up On A Tuesday” with ILoveMakonnen.
This year, Spotify didn’t have their official House. But, Foursquare, the app that gained fame in SXSW 2009, was there to provide me with a break from all the action and it was there that I was reminded the beauty of conferences like SXSW.
LOLO also performed during the first ride and then joined on her own bike.
“I came to South By for the first time last year. I remember we were bouncing from party to party, eating, drinking, but this is one thing that we missed the opportunity to take a step back from the hectic-ness of South By and take a break,” Justin Breton, Foursquare’s head of marketing partnerships, tells me in the hallway of the Westin.
This was the second of two cycling classes Foursquare held. The first was inside a donut shop. This time, we were on the recently remodeled rooftop of the Westin.
For me, similar to Breton, it provided an escape and a reminder that physical fitness is important.
For Foursquare, the events were a pretty big deal for its business.
“This is the first year that were doing something [on our own.] While its small scale, it allows us to be a part of the South By conversation. We wanted to keep it intimate,” Breton said.
Foursquare wasn’t doing anything flashy, however. “The conversation has evolved so much. It launched here at South By. It was a consumer app. It was a darling of South By. Now, we’re a very established company with a suite of business products,” Breton said. “I’m proud to be a part of a company thats forward thinking, not just focusing on one area of the business.”
Yes, Foursquare was a South By darling just like Twitter, Highlight and Meerkat. But we haven’t had one of those since 2015 with Meerkat. Two SXSW without a darling what happened? Is the tech world just no longer creative enough?
“I dont know. I was here last year, and it was the same situation. We didnt feel like we walked away with a new product,” Breton said. “I saw a lot of VR last year and saw a lot this year … Thats evolved.”
Breton also said he has seen the growth of tech companies embracing location (as in, what Foursquare has to offer businesses). Some of the tech giants, including Twitter and Snapchat, use that data to power their own features.
“I think location data is truly becoming more important,” Breton said. “We just launched our SDK. We’re allowing various brands and apps to use the magic. For a brand to be able to understand that someone goes to the movie theater four times a month, I think that’s something that’s becoming more a part of the conversation.”
Potty training is a subject that keeps many parents awake at night, browsing forums and sites in search of tips, advice, and proven techniques. But how do you know which potty-training tips will work for your child and which wont? Surely, there is no “one size fits all” solution that applies to both boys and girls at different ages.
The truth is that potty-training readiness is related to the physical, emotional, and mental state of your child. Or in simple terms, you cant expect to introduce such a change in a childs bathroom habits if he or she is going through a stressful period, such as starting kindergarten or moving to a new house. Your child has to be both physically and emotionally ready for potty training.
Most children are ready to start when they are between two and three years old, but every child is different. Keep in mind that, as a parent, it is your responsibility to make the process as stress-free as possible. If its taking too long or you or your toddler is becoming upset and frustrated, chances are that you may need to try a new method. The key to potty-training success is starting only when you know your child is ready to learn.
Transitioning into underwear is a big step for every toddler. There’s no point trying to get a head start since its been proven that this can only be a successful endeavor when the child is physically or emotionally able. So the first thing to do is check for signs of potty-training readiness. The first and most important prerequisite is for your boy or girl to be able to control their bowel and bladder muscles. Having bowel movements around the same time each day, not having bowel movements at night, and having a dry diaper after a nap or for at least two hours at a time are all signs that they are able to control them. Toddlers must also be able to climb, talk, remove clothing, and have a few other basic motor skills before they can use the toilet by themselves.
As a general rule, children are likely to be physically ready to toilet train before they are emotionally ready, so expect some level of resistance to this change. While tantrums are common, potty training should be a positive experience with lots of encouragement on your part.
Disruptions or delays can happen if there are other stressful factors in the childs life, or major changes in routine. Sometimes, a child who is doing well with toilet training may suddenly have difficulty for no obvious reason. This is a normal part of toilet training and should not prompt the parent to scold, punish or make the child feel ashamed in any way. If there are frequent “accidents,” consider this a sign that your toddler is still not ready for potty training. Put it on hold and try at a later date.
It is generally believed that potty-training boys can be a bit slower than potty-training girls, though its really a matter of how you approach the whole process. While every child is unique in his own way, there are common behavioral traits at different ages that can be used to determine when to start potty-training boys.
Ages 2 To 3
Potty-training boys age 2 to 3 has one big advantage: the child can comfortably sit down until hes mastered the basics. Because toddlers are still not peeing standing up, this is a suitable age to potty-train boys without any accidents. At this time, toddlers love imitating grownups, so a little encouragement and a loving, positive environment can work wonders.
Ages 3 To 4
You can start potty-training a boy as soon as he starts displaying interest in how his daddy or big brother are going to the toilet. Some parents prefer to make it a fun game of target practice, where you teach him how to pee standing up. The later age to potty-train a boy can turn into a real bonding time with Dad as he teaches him how to do his business like a “big boy.”
Parents of girls are in luck, as studies show they learn quicker than boys at the same age. Girls also have a natural inclination towards cleanliness and tidiness, which works to your advantage when youre potty-training them.
Ages 2 To 3
Starting at an earlier age can produce great results, being that toddlers are naturally curious and love to imitate their parents, older siblings, and playmates at the kindergarten. If your girl has seen other children at her age or adults go potty, shes likelier to want to try it herself, so a good start would be to leave the bathroom door open when youre using the bathroom. The lack of privacy may be a bit uncomfortable at first, but this is also teaching her the valuable life lesson that there is nothing shameful about her body or its needs.
Ages 3 To 4
Although girls have a stronger desire than boys to stay clean and not wet themselves, sometimes they can take a bit longer before they display signs of potty-training readiness. Since girls more often play pretend games with stuffed toys and dolls, you can use these to show how “big girls” should use the toilet. Choosing comfortable, cotton underwear with your daughters favorite movie characters can also make potty-training fun and interesting for her.
While the average age to potty-train boys and girls is between 22 and 30 months, parents should remember that having realistic expectations is the first step to beginning the process of potty-training. Accidents are bound to happen and your child is never doing it on purpose, out of disrespect or with malicious intent. Do your best to be encouraging and very supportive, and hide your frustration when your boy or girl has a slip. Remember that nothing makes your child happier than making his or her momma happy too; your approval and love mean the world to them. Taking the time to make them feel comfortable, loved, and calm will make potty-training a breeze.
Rachel Pearson of Petal, Mississippi, didn’t have atypical birthday this year. When she turned 11 years old, she had a very unexpected request for all her friends. Thankfully, they came through and made her special day even more meaningful.
She asked that her close friends bring groceries and other kinds of supplies to her birthday party instead of the usual toys, games, and clothes that most kids receive. She asked this with a very particular mission in mind.
In the video below, Rachel explains, “People don’t realize how much they have until they see someone that’s lost everything and I wanted to let them know that I care and I’m praying for them.”
The birthday girl and her mom, Virginia, took the supplies to the Petal Children’s Task Force so that their collection of goods could be distributed to those who needed them.
“We were very proud of her. She’s always had a very great compassionate and caring heart for others, and so this made us even more proud of her,” Virginia says.
Demaris Lee, the executive director of the PCTF, boasts about her generous donor.
“We’re just overwhelmed to see she’s 11 years old. She’s thinking about others and not just herself,” Lee says. “Because, you know, a lot of children at that age, you always want your own presents, but she was thinking outside, thinking of other people. And it was just an honor to know that they wanted to bring us supplies.”
Hopefully Rachel’s selfless deed will inspire other kids her age to do the same.
As parents, we want our children to be confident and secure with themselves. We hope that our children have the confidence to go out into the world and live wonderful, fulfilling lives. Self confidence has been linked to better results in developing healthy relationships, achieving goals, and general well-being. Confidence and security with one’s self also leads to being able to acknowledge and accept both the positive and the negative aspects of who we are without feeling superior or inferior to others.
So, how do we raise our children to be confident? It’s important for parents to understand that confidence is built on security and stability. After all, most of us know firsthand just how difficult it is to show up at our best when we are in survival mode. One way we can give our children security and stability is through a healthy environment at home.
Here are 10 powerful tips you can begin using today to build confidence and security in your children:
Avoid communicating while your eyes are glued to the TV, text messages, or with grunts from behind the computer screen. Receiving your undivided attention will help your child build trust as well as self-confidence.
2. Allow Your Child To SolveHis/Her Own Problems
As hard as it is for us to watch our children struggle, its important that we do not immediatelyjump in and rescueour child when hes faced with a challenge. Kids are smarter and more creative than we give them credit for. Yes, offer advice, but honor them if they choose to try their own way. Let them know you have confidence in them figuring things out. This will encourage them to problem solve and build stress coping skills.
3. Acknowledge Your Child’s Emotions
Validate both her positive and negative feelings instead of trying to convince her she shouldnt feel that way. Encouraging your child to accept her emotions, including anger, sadness, disappointment, and frustration as normal, will help her respond to her feelings and face the world with a healthier and more realistic view.
4. Discipline To Teach, Not To Hurt
Instead of only expressing your anger and leaving him with a punishment, explain to your child the lessons behind the discipline. You want him to understand why the choices he made were poor so he will know how to make better decisions if faced with something similar again in the future. Punishment alone will simply teach him to hide his mistakes from you.
5. Give Your Child Age Appropriate Responsibilities
Even simple tasks such as making his bed, feeding the family pet, putting away his toys, and taking out the trash once a week will help your childlearn that he is animportant, contributing member of the family with abilities others can count on.
6. Encourage Your Child To Enjoy Time Alone
Alone time empowers kids to truly enjoy being creative in the moment as well as encourage self-sufficiency. Kids who learn this are able to spend time on their own without feeling sadness, rejection, or panic. For younger kids, alone time is when they are able to relax or entertain themselves without help from parents and caregivers.
7. Avoid Shaming Your Child Over His Struggles
Its very important for your child to understand that his struggles do not define him, nor do they make him a failure or a bad person. Build his confidence by identifying and praising his strengths, and then, without judgment, help him find solutions to overcome or cope with his challenges and give plenty of emotional support.
8. Praise Your Child’s Specific Efforts and Accomplishments
Celebrating your child winning the race or getting straight As is wonderful, but keep in mind that its just as important to acknowledge shes earned her victories because she trained daily without fail or studied diligently all semester. This will also help your child establish a growth and improvement mindset as opposed to a purely win or lose mindset.
9. Be A Source Of Calm Confidence
When your child is struck by panic or looks at you with fear in her adorable eyes, it is crucial that you do not reflect fear back at her. This will only increase her freak-out level. Show her by example that better decisions and performance can be achieved by stepping back, taking a deep breath, and maintaining a calm and clear mind.
10. Admit And Apologize When You Make Mistakes
You are your child’s best teacher, so your most effective teaching tool is the example you show them. Show your child that making mistakes is a part of the learning process for everyone. Mistakes do not equal failure if a lesson is learned, because what we take away from it can be used to make us better, smarter, and stronger. You are the key to raising confident kids!
What are your favorite confidence-building strategies that youve practiced with your own children? Let us know in the comments below!
During a recent appearance on BBC Radio 1, Will Arnett decided to call a toy store in character as Batman to see if they had any of his toys in stock. But little did he know that the host of the show had a twist in store that would make his phone call a bit more challenging.